20 04, 2018

Over Confidence Can Kill!

By |2018-04-05T12:45:34-07:00April 20th, 2018|Bias|0 Comments

My husband is known as an “aggressive driver” who, being impatient, takes unnecessary risks in his driving. When I mention these attributes to him, he retorts that he has yet to have an accident after all of these decades. In sum, like many of us, he is over confident in his driving skills based on [...]

23 09, 2016

Random Thoughts

By |2017-05-13T07:41:55-07:00September 23rd, 2016|Research|0 Comments

Recently (as part of a book club), I read The Psychology of Conflict by Raul Randolph (Bloomsbury Publishing PLC, London 2016) who is a barrister and mediator. His approach is to use existentialism as the vehicle through which to discuss the psychological aspects of mediation.  Although some participants of mediation may deny and avoid  it, [...]

4 09, 2015

Appearances Really Do Matter!

By |2017-05-13T07:44:46-07:00September 4th, 2015|Research|0 Comments

We have all heard that how we appear matters: that people judge us by our appearance without even realizing it. People will look at our faces and based on what they perceive unconsciously, will decide whether we are trustworthy. A recent study confirms this link between appearance and trustworthiness. In the July 25, 2015 edition [...]

12 06, 2015

Getting over the Bump in the Road

By |2017-05-13T07:45:20-07:00June 12th, 2015|Negotiation Strategy, Research|0 Comments

At a certain point in almost every negotiation and every mediation, the parties get stuck; they hit impasse or a bump in the road. Recently, I attended a training with Professor Carrie Menkel- Meadow. In one of her handouts, she discussed ways to creatively solve the issues. They include: 1. Use of analogy (direct, fanciful) [...]

4 04, 2014

Thinking outside the Box

By |2017-05-13T07:28:29-07:00April 4th, 2014|Odd stuff|Comments Off on Thinking outside the Box

My dog Cookie loves to play catch (or more aptly, I throw the ball and she chases it!). Shortly after we got her, one of my neighbors told us that on one side of the Mormon Church (2 blocks away) was a great grassy side yard, more or less fenced in, that everyone uses to [...]

1 11, 2013

“The Lunch Date”

By |2017-05-13T07:30:22-07:00November 1st, 2013|Odd stuff|Comments Off on “The Lunch Date”

A few weeks ago, I participated in a panel at the California State Bar Convention discussing the "Ethical Duties of Eliminating Bias in the Legal Profession." While the topic sounds dry, our discussion was not. Even though our presentation was at 8:00 am on a Sunday morning, the audience became more and more lively as [...]

11 10, 2013

Assumptions: Why Cookie Eats Grass

By |2017-05-13T07:30:34-07:00October 11th, 2013|Negotiation|Comments Off on Assumptions: Why Cookie Eats Grass

After putting Argus down last October due to spleen cancer, we got a new dog- Cookie - who just turned three. Needless to say, after having a senior citizen dog, it is quite a change to be taking care of a young dog again.Unlike our other dogs, Cookie loves to eat grass. Every chance she [...]

2 03, 2012


By |2017-05-13T07:35:51-07:00March 2nd, 2012|Odd stuff|Comments Off on Assumptions

As a mediator, I am trained not to assume, and to ask questions. Sometimes, when I am acting as me (and not as a mediator), that training goes out the window; sometimes, it does not. Sometimes, I catch myself in time and reinforce a valuable lesson: never assume. How did this start? With my anterior [...]