Conflict resolution

12 07, 2019

Civility Precedes Empathy!

By |2019-07-08T10:58:48-07:00July 12th, 2019|Conflict resolution|0 Comments

There can be no empathy where there is no civility. I was at a conference  recently during which one the presenters made this statement. It struck me as I had never thought about these concepts as being connected. But, indeed, they are. “Civility” is defined as “…the act of showing regard for others by being [...]

25 01, 2019

How we “Become” a Settling Society.

By |2019-01-10T13:05:56-07:00January 25th, 2019|Conflict resolution|0 Comments

I just finished reading Becoming by Michelle Obama (Crown Publishing 2018).   While the book is an autobiography of the former First Lady, its theme is more than just a story about how some African American kid from the Southside of Chicago broke multiple barriers to become a world known public figure. It is about empathy, [...]

11 01, 2019

Who Is Gonna Build the Fence?

By |2019-01-11T18:00:56-07:00January 11th, 2019|Conflict resolution|0 Comments

In  a recent blog, Tammy Lenski discusses, “ 4 Handy Principles for Deciding When You Can’t Agree”. Considering the present national situation, I found the blog very timely and cannot resist sharing. But, to take it out of politics, let’s use an example. Suppose Jack and Jill are neighbors. Jill has a dog that keeps [...]

27 10, 2017

Three Conversations

By |2017-10-11T13:33:19-07:00October 27th, 2017|Conflict resolution|1 Comment

As part of a book club, I just finished reading Difficult Conversations [How To Discuss What Matters Most] by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen (Second edition, Penguin Books, New York, 2010). While its advice is geared towards the layman, as an experienced neutral, I found some interesting nuggets within its chapters. By “difficult [...]

21 07, 2017

The Pitfalls of “Moral” Politics

By |2017-07-13T15:07:52-07:00July 21st, 2017|Conflict resolution|1 Comment

Morality and “moral” politics seem to be in the news lately. I came upon an article in the Science and Technology section of The Economist (June 22, 2017 edition) discussing “political morality”. Noting that this may be an oxymoron, the article discusses studies showing that politicians who take a position and then change their minds [...]

12 05, 2017

What is your Goal?

By |2017-05-13T07:39:55-07:00May 12th, 2017|Conflict resolution|0 Comments

I just obtained a teaching position as a Lecturer of Law (aka adjunct professor) at University of Southern California Gould School of Law teaching the mediation ethics portion of an ADR Ethics class. One of the issues we will be discussing is the conflicting goals of the participants (that is, the parties, their attorneys, and [...]

5 05, 2017

Jack and Jill Go Up a Hill… And Argued No More (Part 2!)

By |2017-05-13T07:39:56-07:00May 5th, 2017|Conflict resolution|0 Comments

Several weeks ago, I posted a blog discussing two “lures of the Tribal Mind” set out by Daniel Shapiro in his recent book “Negotiating the Nonnegotiable.” (Viking 2016).  Those lures- Vertigo and Repetition Compulsion- struck me as the most common and ones to which we all can easily relate. However, there are others- Taboos (Id. [...]