mediation

31 05, 2019

Mediating My Own Disputes

By |2019-05-07T16:02:43-07:00May 31st, 2019|Odd stuff|0 Comments

There is  an adage that a person who is her own lawyer, has a fool for a client, meaning that representing yourself is a foolish. Why? You lose perspective,  objectivity and perhaps even credibility. Based on a recent event, it seems that this adage applies to mediators as well: one who mediates her own dispute, [...]

26 04, 2019

Should “Hostility” Be in my Toolbox?

By |2019-04-10T16:11:03-07:00April 26th, 2019|News articles|0 Comments

The Cambridge online dictionary defines “mediator” as “…a  person who tries to end a disagreement by helping the two sides to talk about and agree on a solution.” Implied in this is that the mediator will be kind, helpful, friendly, respectful, and any other positive trait necessary to build trust and a relationship with the parties. The adage that “you catch more [...]

12 04, 2019

A New Tool in my Toolbox!

By |2019-03-28T10:57:36-07:00April 12th, 2019|News articles|0 Comments

The  other day I stumbled upon a tweet mentioning a “velvet hammer”. Wondering what it was, I googled the reference and came upon an article discussing its meaning and use; Why the ‘velvet hammer’ is a better way to give constructive criticism by Stephanie Vozza. Taking issue with the what she calls the “sandwich method” [...]

25 01, 2019

How we “Become” a Settling Society.

By |2019-01-10T13:05:56-07:00January 25th, 2019|Conflict resolution|0 Comments

I just finished reading Becoming by Michelle Obama (Crown Publishing 2018).   While the book is an autobiography of the former First Lady, its theme is more than just a story about how some African American kid from the Southside of Chicago broke multiple barriers to become a world known public figure. It is about empathy, [...]

4 01, 2019

New Disclosure Rule!

By |2019-01-03T14:16:29-07:00January 4th, 2019|Legislature|0 Comments

First and foremost, I would like to wish everyone a very Happy New Year; I hope that it proves to be a happy, healthy and very prosperous one for each of you. As I am still recovering from the holidays, I decided to post a blog about a very big change in the law regarding [...]

21 12, 2018

Implicit Biases May Be A Good Thing!

By |2018-12-07T16:55:12-07:00December 21st, 2018|Research|0 Comments

In past blog posts, I have discussed implicit biases and how important it is to recognize their existence and to counteract them in our daily lives. Yet, there may be another and more positive way of looking at them. It is simply a question of “framing”. (See below!) A November 27, 2018 blog posted on [...]

6 12, 2018

Losing Sight of the Forest for the Trees!

By |2018-11-26T17:41:17-07:00December 6th, 2018|Actual Mediations|0 Comments

I had a really weird almost mediation recently. It was a lemon law matter. It cancelled at the last minute simply because plaintiff’s counsel (let’s call her Joan) was sending another attorney (let’s call her Janice) in her stead. The defendant did not like this substitution and so cancelled. It all started when defense counsel [...]