I have never been a big fan or, in truth, much of a fan, of e-mail. I prefer to pick up the telephone and have a real, live actual conversation. Why? To get to know the person, or to get to know her better. Simply put, it is "building rapport"! [Read More]
On January 11, 2013, I posted a blog entitled "A Mediator's Wish List" which discussed a letter to Santa Claus in which the author, a mediator, asked for three gifts: perspective and understanding; empathy and connection; and forgiveness and healing. (a-mediators-wish-list ) The letter appeared in the January 2013 issue [Read More]
Recently, I wrote about a new study on fairness in monkeys. (another-study-on-fairness ) "Fairness" seems to be a popular topic as my colleague Linda Bulmash in her One Minute Negotiation Tipspublished by the Los Angeles County Bar, (Volume VI, Number 2, February 2013) (Busmash) takes up the topic of "Defining [Read More]
The Sunday New York Times Magazine of January 6, 2013 published an interesting article on restorative justice entitled; " Can Forgiveness play a role in criminal justice?" by Paul Tullis.(can-forgiveness-play-a-role-in-criminal-justice.html?_r=1&&pagewanted=all ) The article chronicles the highly unusual approach taken by the victim's parents in the prosecution of the wrongdoer. The [Read More]
One of the jobs of a mediator is to provide a "reality check"; to be a neutral, dispassionate third party, who can be objective and discuss with a party the "downside" or "adverse consequences" to her side of dispute. The goal is to have that party accept what is being [Read More]
Once again, chimpanzees have been the subject of another study on "fairness". Researchers in Georgia claim they now have "...the best laboratory evidence yet that chimpanzees have a human-style sense of fairness." Those who have reviewed the study believe the study is flawed and opine that a sense of fairness [Read More]
I have always believed that a lot of the lawsuits result from a lack of communication or miscommunication. I have also believed that using joint sessions in mediation can be most helpful to clear up a misunderstanding or a lack of understanding. Despite my beliefs, I still mediate a lot [Read More]
Have you ever been asked to imagine during a negotiation or a mediation what the future will look like if you (1) settle the dispute under the terms being proposed; or (2) do not settle the dispute under the proposed (and/or different) terms? No doubt, your response assumes that your [Read More]
